Author : Terry Leslie

“I can’t meet a really great woman I am too fat ” “I am not able to talk to women like that because I just can’t get my act together ” “I am not rich enough to offer her anything ”

Every time we present ourselves with our own self enhanced obstacle we are limiting our ability to get out there and be part of functioning society, which includes the ability to talk to women and be interesting So many men are so willing to complain and claim the impossible task ahead, but they make no action to change their so called road block

In the end, the only person that they have really affected is them and the only person who is even aware of why is them So why go down that road? If there is something that you feel is either standing in your way or that impedes your confidence then change it

We are not victims of circumstance In fact, we are in complete control of our circumstances and we can make choices and decisions that either enhance our current circumstance or create a new foundation for a better one If you feel your weight interferes with your confidence, don’t eat an entire bag of chips Change you actions to solve the problem

“But if I have to lose weight to find a great woman, then I am changing who I am and not looking for acceptance ”

You can’t have it both ways It either interferes with your ability to meet women or it doesn’t If you feel that there is something that turns women off, the turn off is coming from you I have known plenty of heavy guys who find women because they feel they are great people and don’t consider their weight to be any kind of influencing factor

It’s not just limited to weight If you lack self confidence, for any reason at all, then get out there and change your behavior in order to find the woman that you want to be with Every time you convince yourself that you can’t because of some self limiting factor, you are choosing to feel as though you are incapable If you choose this, then don’t complain We all have things about ourselves that we aren’t really happy with We all have a choice in how we opt to handle it We can blame it for our aloneness, we can change it, or we can accept that it is part of what makes us who we are and put it out there with the rest of us when we are meeting potential women companions

Start replacing your bad habits that increase your sense of anxiety about your road blocks Whether that includes exercising more, finding others who have a similar or same problem and picking their brain about overcoming your shortcomings, or use it as part of your attributes instead of using it as a road block

I once knew a guy who had a pretty significant stutter For the longest time he felt he couldn’t land a wife because he stuttered Eventually he learned that if he told women that he stuttered when he was around completely beautiful women who made him totally crazy in love Of course his wife figured out that he was working on his stutter and that she was not at all part of whether he stuttered or not, but he used it so endearingly that he landed not only a wife, but a beautiful, gifted, successful wife who loves him in ways that some of us only dream of

If you believe that women will be turned off by something about you, you are guaranteeing that they will be If you learn to really accept yourself and not predetermine how other people are going to feel, then you now have a gift instead of a curse You have just become more attractive and more outgoing because you put it out there in a totally accepting manner For most women, this is really very attractive and it causes them to look past whatever one of the multitudes of shortcomings you decided to hamper yourself with

You get to decide what is standing in your way Guys who decide that they are fabulous and are truly interested in meeting women and knowing them and understanding them tend to have great success in the dating field even with all of their flaws and imperfections This is the option you get to choose when you get fed up with not being satisfied with what you have to work with The size of your “physical attributes” is not a determining factor for how you can make a woman feel in your presence Only you can stand in your way

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