Author : Terry Leslie

Humans by nature are social creatures We are designed to be intricately involved with each other and designed to crave comfort from others in order to perpetuate the survival of the species It is a perfectly natural inclination to want to be social When you aren’t feeling like you have a whole lot of options, then it is natural to make up excuses as to why you can’t have it

For instance, when you watch the rest of the neighborhood head to someone’s house for a party, it is easy to be put off and not understand the reasons for such behavior The reason that you weren’t invited is because you were sending out unconscious signals that you wanted to be left alone Now that you are upset, you will spend some time just feeling upset or you will do something about it

Watch out how you are presenting your feelings to those around you When you are sending out signals that you aren’t interested (which can also be shyness) those around you are likely to listen When you send out open and caring signals to the world around you, then you send out signals that are more open to response

Being genuinely interested in the world around you and being able to present a smile are the two warmest transactions a domesticated animal can share with another Being happy and present will change the interactions that you have with those around you Being genuinely interested in the world around you and being basically happy with that world is going to attract a lot of positive energy in your direction This means that over a short period of time you can go from being an “At home Charlie” to being a social butterfly

Being social is an important part of our human existence Without personal and interpersonal interactions, we have nothing to present feedback to us that indicate whether we have other areas which need to be addressed Being part of a social situation can provide with a phenomenal amount of feedback about our personal growth and our level of self understanding This information can then be used and applied to help us achieve a greater range of personal growth Social situations don’t have to be uncomfortable to provide this type of feedback Often just paying attention to those who are around us gives us insight into ourselves

Many guys are simply afraid of social situations simply because they have never really been taught how to act when they are in one For them, a social situation is a test that they are all too likely to fail Altering the mind set from a situation of failure to one of opportunity helps you come out of your shell a little bit and experiment against those around you

When it comes to socializing and all its fabulous potential, the one area that can blow any opportunity for you to grow, learn, be appreciated, and to part of the social group is when you fail to control your hygienically challenged issues Part of finding acceptance among a social group is taking care of your body and all of its smells and potential smells This may not always be a simple task, but your efforts go a long way and are greatly appreciated

It is really interesting to check out how guys view hygiene Most of us know that showering is important before a date and before or after work, depending on what we do for a living, but there are plenty of us who don’t consider a social gathering an excuse to shower Well, it is Anytime you have the potential to meet women, meet new friends, or to be in the presence of current friends, a shower is a positive thing

Men also seem to need a little help when it comes to their conversation topics Remember in a social setting, you are not only being heard by those you are speaking with directly but that you are also being overheard by people around you Do not use social situations as your own personal therapy group You are not the only one who has this problem Men like to tell tales of their woes in order to get a wide range of opinions before asserting themselves This can wind up being detrimental to your social scene Everyone has issues that they can bring to the table, but they don’t because they are trying to attract people rather than repel them Negative talk for any period of time makes someone else uncomfortable Positive talk attracts others Keeping the subject matter light and free, then your conversations will flow much easier and you end up feeling empowered because you didn’t allow a negative even to highlight the evening

Learning to be comfortable in social situations and learning to really participate in a healthy manner can’t be done from the sidelines You need experience in order to start building up a good track record and some confidence that you can handle these situations by becoming positive Social skills are a vital part of being involved in the world around you Since none of us really learned them as a child, we need to learn them now to get the most out of every social situation without being overly critical of ourselves If we mess up and become apologize if we were insensitive or if we hurt someone else’s feelings

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